What are Affirmations, and how do they actually work?

​Every word, thought, and belief we repeat to ourselves is an Affirmation. The Reticular Activating System in our brain makes these Affirmations a part of our identity and how we see ourselves and perceive the world around us. The more we think or speak of something, the more ingrained it becomes in our belief system. Imagine your brain as a computer, and your thoughts, words, and beliefs as the "downloads", which together becomes your operating system. Affirmations are a way to reprogram your computer so you operate from a more healthy and positive place that is aligned with your core truth.

Our unconscious mind takes in 40 million bits of information every second, but thanks to a filtering process in the brain, we only perceive 5 – 9 bits per second. These bits are our perception of reality. The unconscious mind contains our past experiences and memories, which means we may be holding onto negative beliefs from our past; beliefs that may no longer be serving us purpose. The good thing is, we can actually work on reprogramming our unconscious mind by using the power of words.

The unconscious mind doesn't know the difference between past and future, it reacts and responds only in the present moment, and what it perceives as the truth. So by feeding your conscious and unconscious mind healthy words, thoughts, and beliefs, you can change your mindset. As Wayne Dyer says, change your thoughts, change your life. This is the true power of Affirmations.

It may feel unnatural at first to use statements that don't feel true, because they may not be a part of your core belief system; however, part of the process of reprogramming your unconscious mind is doing something that feels uncomfortable at first in order to create real and lasting change. On the other side of our resistance, is our greatness.

You can use Affirmations any time, but I recommend setting time aside each day to use these power statements while engaging in a Meditation practice so your body and mind are relaxed and at ease. When your body and mind are relaxed, your unconsciousness absorbs information easier and deeper. When you begin using Affirmations as part of your daily routine, your brain will work to download these words as your new truth.

​Many people, including athletes and entrepreneurs, understand the power of Affirmations and use them to manifest goals and successful outcomes into their physical reality. In fact, I used them before my first book, Heart Is Where The Home Is, became a bestseller. I wrote Affirmation statements in my journal, I repeated them often, and I believed in them without doubt. One year later, almost to the day, my book became a three-times bestseller. That's the beauty of Affirmations: they become true when you begin to believe in them. Belief is the root of all creation. What you believe, you can become. 

I have shared with you some Affirmations for Self love, Health, and Wealth. When using Affirmations while practising Meditation, I suggest placing one hand on your heart - your space of love and compassion - and the other hand on your abdomen - your space of power and identify. 

Begin today to build a new belief system, one that feels healthy and empowering, and aligns with the truth of your heart and soul.

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​Affirmations for Health + Wellness

I treat my body with love, kindness, and respect.

I am finding greater balance with food and all things that I choose to consume.

I trust the wisdom and intelligence of my beautiful mind, body, and soul.
 
I accept myself as I am right now, which allows me to change, grow, and evolve along my life path.

I give myself permission to follow what feels good and right for me.

Today I will breathe deeply and freely as I create a life I truly love.

I choose foods, experiences, and relationships that nourish every cell within my body.

I feed my body all things that increase my vitality, energy, and wellbeing.

I always make conscious and healthy choices that lead me toward my dreams and my goals.

Nothing feels better than taking care of myself and my needs.

When I give myself permission to be comfortable in my own body, I give others permission to do the same.
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True beauty comes from feeling grounded, whole, and loving.

Every day I am becoming stronger and healthier in all areas of my life.

I embrace where I am right now on my physical and spiritual journey.

I honor the sacred relationship I have with my mind, my body, and my soul.

When I’m connected to my body, I feel more complete, fulfilled, and alive.

I pray for the courage to move toward whatever I resist, because I know that’s where my greatest growth and potential is found.

Every cell in my body is loved, nourished, and deeply cared for.

I am dissolving old, painful patterns and letting a new way of being emerge.

Every cell in my body vibrates good health and vitality.

I love and respect my body. I feel great when I take proper care of myself.

Every day is a new day filled with love, joy, happiness, and health.

Affirmations for Success + Abundance 

​I am worthy of manifesting my biggest dreams, goals, and desires.

I believe in myself and in my strength and ability to succeed.

I allow love to fill me up and guide me in all of my actions.

Everything is alway working out for me. I trust in the Universe. 

Today I choose to make magic in my business and in my life.

My mind is free of resistance and open to new possibilities and opportunities .

I am in the process of becoming the best version of myself.

My desires are fuelled by an unlimited belief in myself.  

I can do anything I put my mind to. I have faith in myself and in my unique abilities.

I have whatever it takes to reach and achieve my goals and dreams.

I know I can handle anything that comes my way.

I have the confidence and courage to keep going no matter what.

My dreams are far more important than my fears. I have faith and trust in myself at all times.

I am focused and persistent and I will never give up.

Money comes to me easily and effortlessly.

I am totally in charge of my life and my business.

I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.

My energy creates my reality. What I focus on is what I will manifest.

I am dedicated to living in alignment with my soul truth and highest purpose.

I have the courage to walk my own unique path and to follow all of my dreams and desires.​

​Affirmations for Self Love + Acceptance 

I fully accept where I am and I am ready to embrace this opportunity to grow.

I am supported and loved at all times during this healing process.

I love the parts of me that need my love the most right now.

Even though there is discomfort inside of me, I love and approve of myself.

I am in control of the mental atmosphere I create. Thoughts can be changed and the positive thoughts I choose are helping me heal.

I am free to be me in this new and perfect moment.

My beauty is so much more than my appearance for my true beauty is found in the very depths of who I am.

No matter what has been or will be, my inner light can’t be extinguished.

I treat my discomfort and pain like I would an innocent child. I tend to my body with unconditional compassion and care.

I choose thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere within and around me.

Every choice I make, I make it with mindfulness and with love. Whatever it is that I do, I will love myself through it.

The way out of discomfort is in the discomfort. I honor and respect where I am on my healing journey for that is the only way to truly heal.

I am on the path of growth and expansion and I'm always learning. I respect the process even when I do not understand it.

I love and accept myself as I am, and where I am on my beautiful journey. 

I am willing to be with all of my thoughts and feelings without admonishing them. Instead of turning away, I will stay and understand them.

I release all negativity because it’s not who I am. I make way for love because that’s who I really am.

I am looking for ways to express love. I am looking for beauty in the present moment. I am looking for beacons of hope and light everywhere I go.

​I radiate confidence, beauty, and grace. I love, honor, and cherish all parts of who I am.
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I hope these Affirmations help you on your own healing and spiritual journey. I have also shared below an Affirmation Meditation for Self Love and Acceptance. Enjoy!

Love, light, and truth upon your path.
 
Article written by, Vanessa Marie Dewsbury 

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What are Chakras and how can you keep them in a healthy and balanced state?

There are seven main chakras in the body, starting from the base of your spine through to the crown of your head. To visualize a chakra in the body, imagine a swirling wheel of energy where matter and consciousness meet. This invisible healing energy, called Prana, is vital life force energy which keeps you vibrant, healthy, and alive.​ 

These swirling wheels of energy correspond to massive nerve centers and major organs in the body, as well as our emotional, psychological, and spiritual states of being. To keep our chakras balanced and healthy, it’s essential that our seven main chakras stay open, aligned, and fluid. When blockages occur, the energy flows are restricted and can cause emotional disruptions, as well as illness or dis-ease.

Since the mind, body, soul, and spirit are intimately connected, awareness of an imbalance in one area can help bring all the chakras back into balance. 

First Chakra: (red) The Root Chakra is your sense of stability and security, and houses your basic survival needs. It encompasses the first three vertebrae, the bladder, and the colon. When this chakra is open, you feel safe, secure, and fearless. Imbalances include feeling like you're stuck and can't move forward in life. You may also feel ungrounded and lack inspiration and motivation. Physical symptoms include lower-back pain, sciatica, digestive issues, water retention, and problems with your hips, legs, and feet.

Second Chakra: (orange) The Sacral Chakra is our creativity and sexual center. It is located above the pubic bone, below the navel, and is responsible for our creative and artistic expressions. If the sacral chakra becomes unbalanced you may feel lethargic and extremely low in energy. You may even experience a feeling of loneliness and mild depression. Physical symptoms include, kidney problems and urinary tract infections, chronic lower back pain, sexual disorders, infertility, irregular menstrual cycles, and issues with the intestines, spleen, and gallbladder.

Third Chakra: (yellow) The Solar Plexus means lustrous gem and it’s the area from the navel to the breastbone. The third chakra is our source of personal power, self-esteem, and overall sense of confidence. If the solar plexus chakra becomes unbalanced, you may often feel stressed, anxious, and powerless to gain control, leaving you feeling emotionally and mentally exhausted. You may also experience a lack of concentration, poor memory, insomnia, as well as feeling fearful and uncentered for no apparent reason. Physical symptoms include digestive and intestinal disorders, food allergies, poor metabolism, eczema, and other stress-related skin conditions such as hives.

Fourth Chakra: (green) The Heart Chakra is the connection between Matter and Spirit and is located at the heart center. It serves as a bridge between our body, mind, emotions, and spirit. The heart chakra is our source of love and connection. If the heart chakra becomes unbalanced, you may feel a sense of detachment from the world and from those around you. You may lose sight of  love, empathy, and compassion and have feelings of hopelessness and distrust. You may also find that you are not able to easily forgive yourself, or others, and you tend to hold grudges for long periods of time. Physical symptoms include asthma and respiratory problems, breast problems, as well as upper-back and upper-arm pain, and issues with your shoulders. 

Fifth Chakra: (blue) The Throat Chakra is located in the throat area. This is our source of verbal expression and communication and offers us the ability to speak our highest truth. The fifth chakra includes the neck, thyroid, jaw, mouth, and tongue. If this Chakra is blocked you may experience fear, anxiety, and have poor communication and coping skills. Physical symptoms include sinus issues, sore throat, TMJ, as well as thyroid problems and ailments of the esophagus and tonsils.

Sixth Chakra: (indigo) The Third Eye Chakra is located in between the eyebrows and is referred to as our centre of intuition. If the third eye chakra becomes unbalanced, you may feel overwhelmed by your own thoughts and unable to process them effectively. Your judgment may also be clouded causing you to make poor or rash decisions. Physical symptoms include eye and ear problems, headaches and migraines, nightmares, and neurological disorders. 

Seventh Chakra: (purple or white) The Crown Chakra is located at the crown (top) of the head. This is the chakra of enlightenment and spiritual connection to our higher selves, to others, and ultimately, to the divine Universe. If your crown chakra isn't balanced you may experience feelings of confusion, being mentally disconnected, and even depression. Physical symptoms include light sensitivity, headaches, chronic fatigue, and neurological disorders. The crown chakra affects the health of our brains and therefore our entire mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.

​Here are six simple ways to unblock and balance your Chakras so you keep them healthy and aligned:

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Perform an energetic body scan

One of the best ways to recognize if you have any blockages in your chakra system is to perform an energetic body scan. To do this lay still in a quiet and comfortable position and in an area where you won't be distracted by external elements. Start by placing your hand on your crown chakra and hold your hand there for a few moments. Connect to the energy you feel in that area (it may be a very subtle sensation of energy) and then tune into the intuition of your body and ask yourself, is this chakra open, or is it closed? Listen for your answer.

Once you have received your answer, move onto the next chakra. If you did not hear an answer, often times this may be an indication that there is an imbalance in that chakra. You can always go back and check again. Be sure to make a mental note of which chakras are blocked so you can begin to work on them with more directed focus and intention.

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Use energy stones and crystals 

Many people use energy stones/crystals to help balance and align the chakras. Each stone holds a unique energy frequency that when used on a particular chakra, it will resonate with the vibration of the chakra and work to balance it out. Energy crystals have been used for centuries to help with energy healing and spiritual health and wellness.

Place the stone on the chakra, ideally during a Meditation practice or when sitting quietly and relaxing, and allow the energy of the stone to connect with your own energy. Use your intuition to know and to, feel, when the Chakra has become more in balance and in harmony with itself.

Crystals for each Chakra

Root Chakra 
Bloodstone
Garnet
Smoky Quartz
Hematite

Sacral Chakra
Citrine
Carnelian
Moonstone
Coral

Solar Plexus Chakra 
Tiger’s Eye
Amber
Citrine
Calcite

Heart Chakra
Emerald
Green Jade
Rose Quartz
Green Tourmaline

Throat Chakra
Turquoise
Aquamarine
Lapis Lazuli
​Aquamarine

Third Eye Chakra
Sodalite
Amethyst
Purple Fluorite
Black Obsidian

Crown Chakra
​Amethyst
Moon Stone
Clear Quartz
Selenite

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Spend time in nature

Spending time outdoors is a great way to feel more connected to the earth and it allows you to absorb the healing benefits of Mother Nature more deeply. It also helps to ground your energy and bring more peace and calm into your life. By tuning into elements of nature that have the same resonance as a particular chakra we can not only balance them, but we can also remove blockages, enhance our intuition, boost our immunity, as well as re-charge our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual state.

​Spend time in places such as a peaceful forest, beautiful gardens, by healing waters, in grassy fields, laying on your back looking up at the big blue sky, or take an evening stroll under the moon. And don't forget to embrace the morning sunrise if you can! All the wonderful colours and healing powers of nature will help to bring a better balance to your chakra system. By bringing nature into our lives we can also enhance our self-awareness, our sense of gratitude for life itself, and we can elevate our spiritual growth. Be at one with nature. 

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Use Affirmations

You can use positive words and Affirmations to help balance your chakras and place them back into harmony. Our thoughts and beliefs can influence the flow of life force energy through the various energy centers. When your life force is flowing freely through these energy centers, it enhances your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. When things are open, you will feel a sense of "lightness" and freedom within. 

To use Affirmations to clear and align your chakras, place your hand over each one and repeat the Affirmations shared below. Continue to repeat the Affirmation until you feel a slight shift in your energy. Breath deeply during this process and speak the words slowly and with pure intent in order for you to absorb them fully and completely. 

The following Affirmations coincide with each Chakra:

Root Chakra
I am fillеd with humility. I am enough as I am.

Sacral Chakra 
I am radiant, beautiful, and strong. I enjoy a healthy and passionate life.

Solar Plexus Chakra 
I accept that I have strengths, and I accept that I have weaknesses.

Heart Chakra
I give and receive love fully and unconditionally, and without conditions.

Throat Chakra
My thoughts are positive, and I always express myself truthfully and openly.

Third Eye Chakra
I am wise, and I understand the true meaning оf life’s situations.

Crown Chakra
I am complete and at one with the divine energy of the ever-giving Universe.

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Practice gratitude
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The word 'gratitude' is derived from the Latin word gratia, which can mean grace or gratefulness. When we consciously express gratitude the Universe automatically works to bring about more of the feeling that we are expressing. As The Law of Attraction states, like attracts like, and ultimately, our thoughts and actions become our truest reality. Therefor, using gratitude to balance and align our chakras is done by speaking positive and healing words of gratitude while we connect to each chakra.

To do so, hold your hand over each particular Chakra and express something you are grateful for, be sure to speak right from the heart centre. Sink into the energy and vibration of your words so that they are felt on the deepest level possible. After expressing gratitude, breath in fully, and then release all the way out. Surrender to whatever emotions may arise during this time. All is what it needs to be.

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Use Essential Oils 
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Essential Oils have many healing powers and some of their healing benefits are meant to help unblock and balance your chakra system. To use the oils you can either diffuse them or place a drop on each chakra, be mindful of the Third Eye Chakra when applying the oil so it doesn't end up in your eyes. Also be sure that the oil is suggested to apply on skin before use so that you avoid any skin irritations or reactions.

​As you use the oils, envision the colour of each chakra spinning in a clockwise motion and absorbing into your body and energy aura. Continue visualizing the coloured wheel until you intuitively feel a sense of clearing. Not only are the properties of the oils super healing, but the scents are divine and provide extra stimulate to your senses.

Essential Oils for each chakra:

Root Chakra
Patchouli
Cedarwood
Ylang Ylang
Frankincense

Sacral Chakra 
Jasmine
Orange
Clary Sage
Bergamot

Solar Plexus Chakra 
Lemongrass
Juniper
Peppermint
Myrrh

Heart Chakra 
Bergamot
Lavender
Geranium
Eucalyptus

Throat Chakra
Lime
Peppermint
Rosemary
Sage

Third Eye Chakra
Myrrh
Patchouli
Basil
Clary Sage

Crown Chakra
​Frankincense
Geranium
Jasmine
Sandalwood

Bonus suggestion!

Listen to a Chakra Meditation. I shared one below that balances all Seven Chakras. Enjoy!

​It's important to keep our vital life force energy flowing freely and fluidly so that we experience an optimal state of good health and over well-being. 

I hope this guide helps you on your journey to self love, soul truth, and inner healing. 

​Article written by, Vanessa Marie Dewsbury ​
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​Are you experiencing a shift in your soul? Is something awakening within you, making you question everything, including yourself? Are you starting to remember the truth of who you really are, but feel confused, lost, and alone?

What you may be experiencing is a Spiritual Awakening. Your soul is wanting to transcend beyond itself and transition into the next level of evolution. This is a good thing, but it can also be "scary" and unsettling when you don't know what is happening.

Spiritual growth is a process and it comes in waves. At times your soul may be in "rest mode", yearning peace and quiet, reflection of sorts. At other times it may feel like you are surging forward at high speed and there's no way to stop or slow down. When you experience deep transformation and inner growth, there will be moments of pain and "grief" as you let go of who you thought you were to become who you're meant to be. 
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I'm sharing with you Six Signs of a Spiritual Awakening so you can better navigate your journey and have a deeper understanding of the process of Soul Evolution. 

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Your long-held beliefs begin to change

You may begin to notice that some of the beliefs you held onto so tightly begin to change. They no longer resonate with your truth. You may even question how you believed certain things in the first place. Regardless, what was once true for you, is no longer true.

Throughout our lives, we tend to unconsciously take on the beliefs and opinions of others; some are even ingrained in us from birth. When your soul awakens, however, it starts to shed all the beliefs that don't align with who you really are, and what you truly desire.

This is a beautiful time to empower yourself by choosing to only allow into your life what feels good and right for you, and giving yourself permission to release what no longer serves you. Simply said, take what you need, and leave the rest. Free your own mind.

​"You have the power in the present moment to change limiting beliefs and consciously plant the seeds for the future of your choosing. As you change your mind, you change your experience." 
- Serge King

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There’s an "emptiness" inside of you that you can’t seem to fill

Do you have a deep sense of longing? A feeling that there is more to life and more to who you are, but can’t put your finger on what that "something" is? Are you finding that what once brought you joy and fulfillment, no longer fills you?

I remember when I experienced my Spiritual Awakening, I had this deep inner knowing that there was more to who I was, and felt I was meant to be of service to others; I just didn't know in what capacity. I didn't know what that looked like for me. This left me feeling ungrounded and uncertain, having a knowing, but not knowing. Eventually I was lead down the path of Reiki Energy Healing, and I soon began helping others on their own healing and spiritual journey.

That "void" you may be feeling is your soul remembering what you came here to do, and it's restless and ready to begin a life of helping others, in whatever way that ends up looking for you. It's important to have patience during this process and refrain from trying to force things, as you may miss what you're being pulled toward. I suggest just observing these feelings at first and being curious about what you are drawn to, and what interests you. In time, the truth will reveal itself, as it always does. Trust the process. 

​“As we lose ourselves in the service of others we discover our own lives and our own happiness." 
​- Dieter F. Uchtdorf

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You receive repeated messages or signs

When your soul awakens, it begins to see things it didn't notice before, and as you awaken to yourself, you also awaken to the beauty and synchronicities of the Universe. This may come in the way of seeing the same time on the clock throughout the day, or license plates or street signs that seem to hold some sort of significance. Or maybe a friend mentions something to you and suddenly other people are talking about the same thing.

Could all these signs and messages be random coincidences? Possibly, but chances are they are invitations and opportunities for you to explore things a little deeper. This doesn't mean you need to know what every sign and message means, some things we're just not meant to know or figure out, but what it does mean, is that the Universe is asking you to pay attention. These signs are the soul’s wisdom bringing you closer to your own truth.

​"Synchronicity is choreographed by a great, pervasive intelligence that lies at the heart of nature, and is manifest in each of us through intuitive knowledge." 
- Deepak Chopra

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The desire to stop and reflect 

When we experience an awakening, we often feel the pull to retreat into oneself, to stop and reflect on our lives, our relationships, and what's important to us. The truth is, we spend a lot of our lives going, moving, doing, but rarely do we stop and just be. We don't allow ourselves moments of silence to go into the depths of our own soul and connect to our ever present spirit.

A Spiritual Awakening almost "pushes" you back into self, so you can reflect on what is working for you and what isn't. It's a time to get real and honest with yourself so you can make any necessary changes that you have been avoiding making. It doesn't mean you need make bold and drastic changes, it means this is the time to gently and intuitively let go of what no longer resonates and aligns with the essence of who you are. It means taking small steps towards the changes you desire.

Stopping and reflecting also helps us connect to repressed emotions and memories within our unconsciousness so we can heal old wounds and love all the parts of us that are asking to be seen and felt. Feeling is healing. Self reflection doesn’t judge, blame, or criticize, it simply holds space for oneself from a compassionate, caring, and gentle place.

​"The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination…until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.”
​- Iyanla Vanzant

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A transformation of Ego

The ego is created in the mind, by the mind, however, the thoughts and beliefs we have about ourselves are often far from the truth of who we really are, at the very core of our essence. Our ego likes to create conceptualized versions of who and what we imagine ourselves to be so, when you experience a Spiritual Awakening, you also experience an awakening of the soul, and the ego. 

This awakening can "force" us to look at all the parts of our constructed identity, the good, the bad, and the ugly, so we can recognize, and then release versions of ourselves that no longer align with our soul's truth. This can be a pretty intense and painful process, yet at the same time, it's one of the most beautiful transformations you will ever go through. As you "un-become," you become your true authentic self, beyond the masks and illusion of the ego.  

“Our job, as souls on this mortal journey, is to shift the seat of our identity from the ego to the Self. That’s it.” 
- Steven Pressfield

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A sense of Oneness with the world

Oneness is an experience that transcends the mind. When we experience the feeling of oneness, we feel a deep and emotional connection with everything, and everyone around us. 

I recall a time when I was at a beach and I was in the water floating on my back. My ears were emerged in the water and I could hear the beating of my heart, and the depths of my breath. I looked up at the vast blue sky above me and I had this surreal and profound feeling of being nothing, yet being everything at the same time. It evoked emotions and wisdom within me that I'll never soon forget. It was in that very moment I understood that we are all connected, we are all one, and that nothing, and no one can exist without the other. 

This awareness helped me see others in a different perspective as well. I could no longer judge the path of another because if I judged someone else, in truth, I was judging myself. The feeling of oneness also deepens our connection with nature and animals, in fact, we begin to see most things in a new light, with a new sense of love and appreciation. It's such a wonderful gift to receive. 

Have you ever experienced those moments, perhaps when you're driving in a car on a warm sunny day, and you suddenly get this sense that everything is okay, everything is perfect, just as it is. It's a very fleeting and rare moment, but that's the feeling of oneness, that's the ultimate connection you're feeling to the Universe and the unseen energy that exists all around you. Although the feeling leaves as quick as it came, it's an experience that remains within you, forever.

"Living a spiritual life requires a change of heart, a conversion. Such a conversion may be marked by a sudden inner change, or it can take place through a long, quiet process of transformation. But it always involves an inner experience of oneness." 
- Henri Nouwen

Have you had a Spiritual Awakening, or are you experiencing one right now in your life? I'd love to hear about it. 

Love, light, and truth upon your path.

Article written by, Vanessa Marie Dewsbury 

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." 
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Times are very stressful right now as we face a world crisis together in regards to the Coronavirus. Emotions are high, energy is tense, and fear, stress, and worry has overcome many of us.
 
During these times it’s important that we take good care of our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual health. When we are stressed, our immune system is lowered thus potentially allowing illness and dis-ease to enter our bodies more easily. Take this time to take care of yourself so that you can take care of those around you.
 
Here are some helpful ways you can manage your stress, and keep your energy levels at their optimal. 
 
Recognize and acknowledge your feelings

It’s okay that you’re feeling anxious, scared, fearful, angry. You have every right to your emotions. What’s important is that you recognize your feelings and acknowledge them, otherwise you are denying parts of yourself that want to be felt, seen, and heard right now.

​When we ignore our feelings, the energy of the emotions that were created remain active in the cells of our body. Acknowledging our emotions put simply, is how we release them. When we release them in a healthy way, we decrease stress, tension, and anxiety. Another way our body releases stress is through tears. Our tears act as a safety valve by releasing excess stress hormones such as cortisol. Chronic elevated levels of these hormones can cause physical ailments and negatively effect our mood and emotions. As stress often precedes a good cry, the sense of calm you experience afterward is the result of the hormonal release.

​It may also be helpful to use a journal to freely express your thoughts and feelings. Journals are a great tool and outlet where you can openly share how you are feeling, knowing that you will not be judged or criticized. Let it out by writing it out.

I'm able to control and minimize the stress from major life challenges and changes.

Do things that feed your soul 

Now more than ever it’s vital to do things that feed your soul and nourish your mind and body. Consider right now the perfect time to reconnect with self and reflect on areas in your life where you may have neglected or ignored what your inner being has been craving.

There are many things you can do, such as listening to Meditations, going for walks and connecting with Mother Nature, or engaging in Yoga practices such as, Restorative Yoga, which is soothing and healing for your mind, body, and soul. You can also enjoy a good book while taking a candle-lit cleansing bath with Epson Salts and essential oils like Lavender or Ylang Ylang; I call these Spiritual Baths. Other things you can do to feed your soul are creative activities such as painting, drawing, knitting, colouring, or putting together a puzzle. 

Anything that you enjoy doing, do it. It's also good to try something new and different. Give yourself some relief from any chaos in your current reality so you can keep your energy calm and strong.

I have let go of mentally replaying negative situations in my mind.

​Challenge your thoughts and be mindful of what you allow into your energy field

It’s hard not to fall victim to our own thoughts at times, to allow them take over and control our entire being. What our thoughts can do, however, is affect our emotional state. When you have a "negative" thought come up that you feed energy to, it then grows. As it grows it turns into an emotion, and our emotions are known to control our actions and behaviours and can make us respond from an "irrational" place of high emotion and put us in a state of intense anxiety.

To stop a “negative” thought in its tracks, ask yourself, "does this thought serve me purpose, and is it feeding the energy of love, or fear?" These questions create an interruption in our thought pattern and can help us choose new thoughts that are more empowering and healthier for our wellbeing and state of mind.

​We also want to be mindful of what, and who, we allow into our energy field. When we are bombarded with fear-based news and articles flooding our social feeds, it’s easy to get pulled into the "darkness." But nothing good comes from feeding and fuelling our fears; in-fact, fear alone is known to weaken our immune system. Social distance yourself from your phone and anything else that doesn’t feel good right now. Stay mindful, aware, and informed, but take what you need, and leave the rest. 

I have replaced feelings of overwhelm with faith that everything will work out. All will be well.

Listen to music 
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This suggestion doesn’t need much of an explanation other than, music is healing for the heart and soul. Play your favorite songs, search for new music, or tune into some of the amazing artists on social media who are sharing their gifts and musical talents with the world. Seeing so many artists having Live concerts online has lifted my spirits in a way they will never know. Free yourself from anxiety or stress by listening to music and the healing vibrations it brings.

Let yourself get lost in the creative and musical expressions of others. 

I am freeing myself of any obsessive and compulsive thoughts. My body is becoming clear and calm

​Have Acceptance
 
This may be a hard one to swallow but acceptance is essential. When we don’t accept our current reality as it is, we resist it. When we resist it, we remove ourselves from the situation thus preventing us from managing our emotions and working towards creative solutions. Non-acceptance simply keeps us stuck and paralyzed. Acceptance is the act of acknowledging and embracing what is as opposed to trying to control what isn’t, or what might be.
 
Use the statement, “I accept what is happening right now, even if I don’t like it. Acceptance will bring me into action and move me towards finding solutions and managing my emotions."
 
In truth, acceptance provides a sense of peace when you let go of what isn’t and embrace what is, as unknown and as uncertain as it may feel right now. There is freedom in acceptance.

I am letting go of all feelings of despair and hopelessness. I have trust and faith in the future that lies ahead of me.

Take a conscious breath

When you find yourself consumed with unpleasant thoughts, pull yourself away from your thoughts by connecting to your beautiful breath. Ground yourself in the present moment where everything is truly okay. Place your hand over your heart, as this has a calming effect on your mind and body, and take deep conscious breaths in and out creating a wave of relaxation throughout. Visualize your body filling with peaceful white healing light and allow yourself to let go and just be. Your breath is life, connect to your essence of life and being.

I am releasing the habit of always assuming the worst and I replace this energy with trust, hope, faith, and belief.
 
These are really difficult times for the entire world, so take a bit of comfort in knowing you are not alone. We can see this situation as complete devastation and disaster, or we can find some good in what it means for us. Whether it’s encouraging you to strengthen the bond with your family, choosing to eat better or move more so you keep yourself in good health, or the inspiration to have a deeper connection with self. This situation might be the catalyst for you to make those much needed changes in your life that you have been putting off...it could be the Universe “forcing” you into change. You choose what it means for you. 
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I truly believe that in every burden, there is a blessing...what blessings can you find right now? 

​Love, light, and truth upon your path.
 
Article written by, Vanessa Marie Dewsbury 

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." 
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"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." - Brené Brown
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Having healthy boundaries in our lives are necessary because they ensure that our friendships and relationships are mutually respectful, supportive, and kind. Boundaries are a measure of self-esteem and self-worth and they set the basic guidelines for how we want to be treated. Setting boundaries however, isn't the easiest thing to do. In fact, many people feel guilty and uncomfortable when they express their our own needs and desires.  

​Healthy boundaries are also an important component of self-care. It's how we respect ourselves, and in turn, the way in which we receive respect from others. When we neglect to set boundaries, in essence, we are unconsciously giving permission for others to take advantage of us. This creates patterns of unpleasant experiences and relationships that leave us feeling resentful, depleted, angry, and frustrated.

There is a well known quote that says, "we teach people how to treat us." And what a truth that is! The more we "accept" things that we're not okay with, the more we show someone what they are "allowed" to do. Setting healthy boundaries can have many benefits, including the well-being of your mind, your heart, and your physical health. When you start saying "no" to what doesn't serve you, and "yes" to all that does, you will find your level of confidence increases as well as your self-esteem. 

I've shared with you six ways to create healthy boundaries, I hope they help you too. ​

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Clarity is power

You can’t set healthy boundaries if you’re unsure what your own needs and desires are. So, the key is to get clear on what feels right for you, and what feels wrong for you. How do you want to be spoken to? How do you want to be treated? What makes you uncomfortable, stressed, or anxious? These feelings will help you establish what your limits are. Start by making a list of your values, of what's important to you, write down how you want to be treated, and from there any time your values and boundaries aren't being respected, you can communicate with more clarity and confidence because you have been clear on what you will and will not tolerate. 

Each time I honour my boundaries I feel more and more confident to express my needs and create space for my desires.

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Learn to say no
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The word "no," is a complete sentence, but the truth is, this simple two letter word can be quite daunting and stressful to say to others. This is because we have often been met with guilt and poor reactions when we have said "no" to someone who is wanting something from us. So in order to avoid confrontation and people thinking "badly" of us, we appease them and do something we desperately do not want to do. Then the resistance and resentment sinks in and we are left feeling depleted and disrespected. Maybe even taken advantage of. We also feel frustrated with ourselves because we said "yes" when our heart was calling out, NO! Here's something you need to know, when someone asks you to do something and you say no, they are going to move onto the next person. They may even forget they asked you in the first place. And when you actually start saying no, people will respect you, IF they respect themselves. If they don't, they don't deserve your time and energy. Say what you really want to say and don't feel the need to justify or explain yourself. If something doesn't align with your energy, or serve you, don't do it.  

Setting boundaries is a normal part of my every day life.

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Give yourself permission

Guilt, fear, and self-doubt can often prevent us for standing up for ourselves and expressing our deepest needs. We worry about how others will react and respond to our requests. This is one of the biggest things that stop us from setting healthy boundaries and receiving the respect we innately deserve. One thing that helps me greatly in many aspects of my life, is the act of giving myself permission to do what I need to do. Because the truth is, we tend to wait for permission from others, for someone to tell us it's okay to speak up, to say how we feel about something that doesn't feel good for us. However it's solely up to us to directly communicate our needs because nobody knows what we truly need, only we do. So give yourself permission to set boundaries and know that you are not responsible for how others react, you are only responsible for your own actions.

It’s safe for me to share my boundaries with others.

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Tune into your intuition 
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What is your intuition telling you? What is your energy saying? Your instincts and intuition can help you determine when someone is violating or disrespecting your boundaries. It's also an indication to let you know when you need to set some boundaries. When you find yourself in a situation that doesn't feel good, check in with your body and reflect on how you are feeling. Are you anxious, uncomfortable? Is your heart rate up or do you feel a tightness in your chest? These are some of the many ways your body is communicating a message to you. Ask yourself what part of the experience and encounter made you respond this way and self inquire whether or not you need to set some boundaries, and what those boundaries will be. 

​I honour myself by honouring my boundaries.

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Make self-care a priority

We hear about self-care so often, but how does it relate to setting boundaries? Simple. If you aren't caring for yourself, and respecting the needs of your own mind, body, and soul, you can not expect others to respect those needs. It's important that we are taking care of own wellness and our wellbeing, because when we do, we start to feel more confident and self assured in our choices. In turn we come to a point where we will not allow others to mistreat or disrespect us. Putting yourself first and nurturing your own needs will help you build the inner strength you may require when it comes to setting those healthy boundaries. And just remember, implementing boundaries isn’t selfish, it's an act of self-love. When you say "no" to others, you are saying "yes," to yourself. Take care of yourself first and value your own self worth because when you value yourself, others will naturally value you.

Each and every day I’m becoming clearer and clearer about the boundaries that serve me best.

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Start small

Like any new skill, effectively communicating and expressing your boundaries takes practice and patience. Begin by setting a "small boundary," one that doesn't scare you too much or make you feel overly uncomfortable. Maybe it's telling your clients that you're only available between certain hours. Maybe it's turning down an invite from a friend or family member, or perhaps it's declining a favour someone asks of you that you know you will later resent doing. When you start "small," you begin to build the boundary muscle and eventually you become stronger the more you exercise and build this muscle. The more you say "no," to that which doesn't serve you, the more aligned you become with your own truth and your own needs. 

I am worthy and deserving of setting and maintaining boundaries that feel good and right for me.

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Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." 

I remember from a young age that I was able to feel the emotions of others. Whether it was a family member, friend, or even a stranger, I could feel what they were feeling. Being so young however, I had no idea what was going on. I just knew I felt so deeply, and at times this "sensitivity," caused me anxiety and confusion. It also make me introverted and needing to spend a lot of time alone.

It wasn't until I started working with energy through my Reiki Practice, that I began to understand what was happening and why I was feeling what I was feeling. I also came to the realization that some people are a little more sensitive to energy than others. This is what one would call an Empath. An Empath is a person who can consciously and unconsciously tune into the emotional state of another.

After understanding that Empaths are highly sensitive to energies, things started to make more sense for me. Like the fact that I couldn't watch the news, and any kind of violence or cruelty would leave me feeling completely "depressed" for the entire day. I was holding onto experiences and emotions that were not my own, it's no wonder why my anxiety at times was through the roof. I also noticed that I felt overly uncomfortable engaging in "small talk," and inauthentic connections would make my skin crawl. I could just sense when something, or someone, didn't feel right. 

Empathetic people typically only express their emotions with someone they feel 'safe' with. On the other hand, people seem to be very drawn to empathetic people; they feel an instant sense of safety and trust, and will openly share their deep emotional traumas. You will find complete strangers being drawn to the energy of an Empath, and I personally believe it's an inner knowing that they will understand and listen without judgment.

​I have now learned how to better manage my own energy and emotions, and I'm much more aware when I'm experiencing something that isn't mine. I'm sharing with you some things that helped me throughout my journey and they may help you as well.

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Check in with your body

A clear indication that you’re carrying someone else's energy is when you notice a sudden change in your own emotions, energy levels, mood, or if your physical state suddenly switches. If you find you are feeling anxious, stressed, irritated, or even sick, you may have absorbed the energy/emotions of someone around you. When this happens, take a few moments to check in with your body and ask yourself, "is this mine?" and listen for your answer. If you hear "yes," don't be afraid to explore the feelings and self inquire, be curious about it. If you hear "no," then repeat the Mantra, "this isn't mine, this isn't mine," then envision the energy leaving your body and dissipating into the air. You'll be surprised how powerful this tool can be and how quickly it can change your state. Just remember to remain as an "observer" of your experiences and not an "absorber" of everything you encounter. 

"I clearly communicate my needs and take the time to appreciate my own energy, to know my true self, and to grow and evolve spiritually."

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Find someone to talk to 

As an Empath, you will most likely be spending a lot of your time dealing with the emotions of others so it's important to connect with someone who you can relate with, someone who "gets you." People tend to be drawn to empaths as they have this natural and compassionate energy about them, they stand out like a beacon of beautiful light, however you need a place to openly discuss these emotions so you can release them in a healthy way. Find a friend who shares your empathetic nature with whom you can share with, in confidence, so you are not struggling alone. 

"I choose not to absorb the emotions of others, instead I will observe what is and stay in my own space of energy and light."

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Take a Spiritual bath

Empaths love the water and find it very healing and therapeutic. A healthy way to dissolve stress and anxiety, and to release unwanted energy is to immerse yourself in water. I like to have what I call a "Spiritual Bath" where I use Epsom salts and lavender essential oils in the water, then I safely place candles around the room and burn incense. Nag Champa is my absolute favourite incense as it has a peaceful and soulful scent to it. The magnesium salts will calm your energy and relax your muscles and the candles and incense will create an almost instant feeling of safety and grounding. When you drain the water after your bath, envision the water taking away all the stress and negative emotions you have been holding. See yourself as being cleansed and filled with the healing powers and pure energy the water naturally carries. 

​"I will continually practice self-care in order to respect and protect my sensitivities. I commit to taking the time to recharge and replenish my mind, body, and soul."

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Set healthy boundaries
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This is a must for Empaths. To survive and thrive as an Empath, it's important to set healthy boundaries for the sake of your own emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being. If you feel drained and depleted after spending time with certain people, then give yourself permission to limit your time with them. This doesn't necessarily mean you "get rid of people," it simply means, you are permitted to do what feels right and good for our own soul, and if that means spending less time with someone, that's perfectly okay. With that being said, if you need to completely remove yourself from people who are abusive or harmful to you, please trust what your intuition is guiding you to do. When you set healthy boundaries, you are choosing to respect your own needs and this is a true form of self love and self care.

"I have the power to clear all negativity and stress from my body. I embrace my physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness."

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Spend some time alone 

Empaths need time alone to regroup and reconnect with themselves and often times it's one of the only ways they can replenish their energy. Detaching yourself from external stimulation is a great way to clear negativity and release unwanted energy that you may have picked up throughout the day. When taking time to centre your soul, try avoiding phone calls, text messages, bright lights, nosey environments, the internet, and television, or anything else that could distract you. Perhaps spend some time in nature, journalling your feelings, or simply, just being still. This is your time for you, so don't feel guilty or ashamed, remember, you need to give your best to yourself first in order to give your best to others. 

"I consciously let go of all things that no longer serve me purpose."

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The Magic of Meditation

Meditation will help ground you, balance your energy, and create internal harmony within, it will also help you connect to your mind, body, soul, and spirit. Find some time when you can be alone without distractions and choose a Meditation that you feel drawn too. There is an abundance of Meditations on YouTube for clearing energy which you may find helpful. I have also created one specifically for Empaths to clear unwanted energy and to bring in new positive energy. During your time of Meditation, focus on releasing and receiving, and allow yourself to absorb the gentle healing. Place your thoughts in a space of love, positivity, and compassion and give yourself permission to just BE for as long as you need to. This practice will help you let go of what isn't yours. Being an Empath is difficult at times, but it's a true gift, and if you take care of your own energy, you will better manage the energy of others.

"I vow to honor my sensitivities and treat myself lovingly. I appreciate myself and my beautiful gifts and abilities." 

Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." 

​Creating a magical morning routine is essential to achieving a successful and abundant life. Waking up a little bit earlier than usual will give you more time to focus on your goals as you begin the day with more energy, ease, and peace. A morning routine can help reduce stress levels, improve mental clarity, and soothe any anxieties you may be experiencing as you start your day. Having a more structured morning helps you set the tone for the day, and allows you to control your schedule, rather than having your schedule control you. As you start each day feeling fresh and energized, you can better focus on the tasks ahead and where you need to prioritize and place your time and energy. This will not only increase your productivity throughout the day, but it will increase your self confidence as well. It's a win win!

This is a new beginning to a more energetic, productive, and abundant life. Plus the great news is, you do can all the things I suggested below while still in bed! Perfect right! 

Added benefits to creating a magical morning routine:

- It reduces stress levels and allows you to ease into your day feeling more grounded 
- You gain more time so you're not rushing around and forgetting things or running late 
- You're taking good care of your mind, body, and soul, which is important for your overall health and well-being
- You will give yourself adequate time to make healthy choices for breakfast

Here are Six ways you can create a magical morning routine.

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Practice gratitude 

I'm big on offering words of gratitude as soon as I wake up. The fact that I received another day on this earth is something to be thankful for in itself. You don't need to spend a lot of time on this one, it's simply a matter of saying, or writing in a journal, a few things you are grateful for. It can be anything from your comfy warm bed, to your hot cup of coffee or tea.

​Once you start finding things to be grateful for, you will find even more things. The list really is endless! This not only helps you start your day off on a more joyful note, but the more you are thankful for your blessings, the more you begin to live in a state of gratitude. This state will leave you feeling overly appreciative for even the smallest of things, and it will also increase a feeling of abundance overflowing in your heart. 

"My life is a gift. I will use this gift with confidence, joy, and exuberance."

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Do some light stretches in bed

Starting your morning off by doing a few light stretches has many health benefits. Not only does it relieve tension in your muscles, but it gets the blood flowing to the body including the brain. Morning stretches can also be helpful when it comes to alleviating aches and pains in your joints and muscles as this tends to happen after the body has been at rest for a long period of time. Light stretching provides your body with more energy and can prevent lethargy and feelings of fatigue. Here is a great article that shares ten stretches you can do in bed. Article.​

"Today I align myself with freedom, growth, and joy."

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​Listen to a soul soothing meditation
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There's nothing like listening to a beautiful and soothing Meditation as you begin your day. Meditation is widely known for calming the mind and body so listening to one upon waking will help you to feel more grounded and peaceful as you ease into your day. Often times we can wake feeling unrested, irritated, and foggy in the brain, Meditation will help balance your body, harmonize your energy, and calm your mind.

You don't need to be an "expert" when it comes to Meditating, it's simply a matter of being present and allowing what comes up, to come up, and then to release. You are not aiming to completely clear or empty your mind of thoughts, your goal is to just BE, and to create space between your thoughts. There is nothing else for you to do. I've made an Affirmation Meditation specifically for creating a magical morning routine where I share gentle, but powerful affirmations spoken from a place of love and compassion. You can find it here. Affirmation Meditation

"Just one small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day."

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Set intentions for your day ahead

Setting intentions activates a part of your receptivity which is your willingness and ability to take in ideas and information. If you start your day off without having any intentions, it's like a ship leaving the shore without a destination in mind. Having clear intentions allows you more control of your day, and it also encourages you to be fully aware of your morals and core values. Intentions give you purpose and the inspiration and motivation you need to achieve your goals, dreams, and desires. Samples of intentions are: I intend to manifest a really good day, I intend to live and lead by example, I intend to be my best self today, I intend to serve from a place of love and joy, I intend to create a new morning routine that allows me more freedom and time for myself. 

​Whatever your intentions are, say them with conviction and allow them to come straight from your authentic heart. I recommend doing this while listening to a Meditation as it puts you in an ideal state of mind for planting the seeds of your intentions. The more you are relaxed and at ease, the easier it should be to recognize your purest desires and truths.​

​"My mind and my heart will remain open today."
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Use positive affirmations

Another element to creating a magical morning is by using affirmations to start your day off in a positive direction. Affirmations are statements that affirm a truth and we should never underestimate the power of words. Many of us have Limited Beliefs that may have stemmed from childhood, beliefs such as, we aren't good enough, we aren't smart enough, we can't do this, etc. Although we really can believe these things, it doesn't mean they're true. 

​You can work on changing your Limited Beliefs by recognizing and acknowledging them, and by choosing new beliefs that better serve you purpose, and align with who you really are, and you are a beautiful soul full of love, wisdom, and grace. Choosing to start your day off by telling yourself positive and healthy thoughts is a sure way to lead to more happiness and joy in your life. Before you know it your "negative" thoughts will show up less, and when they do, just ask yourself "does this thought serve me purpose," and then use your affirmations as a means to reframe your Limiting Beliefs. Start your morning by telling yourself healthy, loving, and kind thoughts that feed your heart and soul.

"My thoughts do not control me, I control my thoughts."

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Choose that it's going to be a great day

I hear it often, someone claiming it's going to be a bad day before the day has even begun. The thing is, if you have already decided it's going to be a bad day, then chances are, it will be! When our mind has already determined how the day will be then we look for "evidence" that proves we are right. Perhaps you got all red lights on the way to work, or your coffee spilled on your favorite shirt, these are all things that we can believe contributed to our bad day. However, if you wake up choosing it's going to be a great day, well, watch what happens. You will start to notice all the good things that happen throughout the day like the person who held the door open for you while getting your morning coffee, or the kind stranger who smiled at you while on your morning or evening walk. It really is all about mindset and perspective, and how we choose to see things. Do we look for the good in each experience and encounter, or do we focus on the "bad" in all things.

During my Spiritual Guidance Sessions with clients, I often teach about the foundations of The Law of Attraction, as I believe it's at the root of all experiences and outcomes. The Law of Attraction states that, Like Attracts Like, therefor, you attract what you focus on, so why not wake up choosing it's going to be a great day and be open to what unfolds from a more neutral and open space within your being.

"I am excited to wake up each morning and experience this beautiful life, that I am creating with my thoughts and visions."

Bonus tip! Get yourself a new calendar and set a date to start your new routine. Mark off each day you follow your routine and make the intention of committing to it for 21 days. According to Dr. Maxwell Maltz, it takes 21 days to create a new habit so if you keep it up, you may find it becomes your new way of being! Plus, our brains love to see things completed and this will actually train your brain to want to continue to see those marked off days as it feels a sense of accomplishment and success. If you miss a day or two, don't worry about it, just keep moving forward with your best intentions at heart. 

I hope my suggestions help you on your journey to creating a magical morning! Have a beautiful and abundant day!  

​Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I guide others on a journey to self love and soul truth."

What is Self Love anyway, and what exactly does it mean? Self Love means, loving and caring for yourself like you do someone you love. It means holding space for yourself from a place of love, compassion, empathy, and non-judgment. It's also doing healthy things for yourself that foster and nourish your mind, body, soul, and spirit. 

Love for self is so important, yet many of us don't give to ourselves the way we give to others. Why is that? Why do we not feel deserving or worthy of our own love? Well, it can be for many reasons, maybe we weren't loved the way we needed to be as a child and so we carried this unconscious belief that we aren't worthy of good, healthy, and healing love. Maybe it's because we give to others so much of our lives, that we just don't know how to receive the very thing we give. Whatever the reason, it can be changed, and you can learn to love yourself more by engaging in some of the suggestions I have shared below.

​First thing I want you to know is that you are, without a doubt, worthy of the greatest love of all and it's up to you to give yourself what you innately need and desire. When you love and accept yourself for all that you are, you build a strong sense of confidence that is unwavering and unstoppable. It's beyond powerful. Believe me, I've been there, I've done the work, and now here I am sharing with you. I'm also still a work in progress, as we all are, but for me, it's not about perfection, it's about learning and growing as we go, and doing the very best we can from where we are.

So, how do we cultivate Self Love? Here are Six helpful steps.

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Be conscious of what you consume

Nurturing and caring for yourself will not only grow your love for self, but it will also enhance your self-esteem, confidence, and energy. Begin by being super conscious and mindful about what you consume, and not just in regards to food/beverages, but what you consume and allow in your life in terms of friendships and relationships, your "newsfeed," your social life, and every other important area that means something to you. Be in control of what you expose yourself to and set healthy boundaries whenever, and wherever you feel necessary. Making healthy, intentional, and conscious choices will empower you as you learn to understand your own worth, and the value you have to offer the world. Remember, this is your life and you get to choose how you want to live it. 

"I honour and cherish what my mind, body, and soul ask of me and I choose to consume things that bring me wellness, health, and happiness."

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Get in touch with your spiritual side

​Many of us tend to lose connection with self over the years. We get sidetracked with life and slowly conform to what society expects of us. This often leaves us feeling stressed, anxious, and even depressed. The importance of having a connection to your spiritual side, whatever that means to you, is crucial because our spiritual and soulful side is, at the very core, who we really are. Try different things that can help you reconnect within such as listening to Mediations, here is one I created for Self Love & Inner Healing, journaling your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and experiences, taking walks alone in beautiful nature, or maybe it's listening to inspirational content or reading spiritual books that help guide you back home to the heart and soul. When you explore your spirituality, it will take you on a journey of discovering things about yourself that you may have temporarily forgotten. It will also help you appreciate yourself more and empower you to express all parts of who you are.

"Being myself involves no risks. It’s my ultimate truth, and I live fearlessly."

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​Connect with community

I'll be honest with you, in my mind, community is everything. Think about how it was back in the day when there were tribes of people working together as a team. They hunted together, cooked together, helped each other build homes, and they cared for each other like their own family. When it comes to self love and community, I believe it's important that we connect with like-minded people who lift us up and encourage and inspire us to be our best self. Connecting with community will make you feel like a part of something important and truth be told, we all just want to belong, and to be loved and accepted for exactly who we are. Seek out different workshops in your area that host meet ups which are aligned with your interests, or perhaps there is someone you see as like-minded and you would like to ask them out for coffee or tea. Whatever it may be, take the first step and seek out opportunities and experiences that will help you grow and evolve while on your beautiful journey to self love and acceptance. 
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"I welcome people, things, events, and experiences that help me heal and grow."

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Engage in something you love

Engaging in anything you love is an instant self-esteem and confidence booster. It allows you to express your creativity from a place of authenticity, love, and joy. Self-esteem and self-love often go hand in hand, and indulging in a hobby you're good at will also boost your endorphins and bring out the best and most beautiful version of you. Think of some hobbies and activities that bring you true pleasure and joy and engage in them as often as you can. Connect to your inner child and embrace all that sets your heart and soul on fire. The act of play, will bring about a feeling of lightness in your spirit and increase your love for self.

"The love within me flows through me in every situation."

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Give yourself permission to forgive and let go

We're constantly holding on to so many things from our past, things that hurt us and caused us pain, grief, and trauma. Holding on to these "old emotions" and experiences can actually create a feeling of heaviness in our energy body. In turn, it can cause us to have low-self esteem, self doubt, and it can even result in physical ailments and dis-ease. Although we may do this as a way to protect ourselves from being hurt again, it's really only holding us back from moving forward and loving and accepting ourselves for who we are. When we give ourselves permission to forgive and "let go," we release the heaviness in our heart that we have been carrying with us. It's not saying what someone did to you was okay, it's saying, I choose to love myself enough not to allow the actions of another to take up anymore time, space, and energy in my mind, body, and soul. It's also important to first acknowledge and feel the feelings so that you can let them go. As a part of my coaching program, I ask my clients to write letters of forgiveness to themselves, and to others. After the letters are written they are asked to either cut them up, or burn them, (in a safe place of course). This process allows you to release the pain and trauma through the act of writing as it creates an "energetic release" which is really quite powerful and profound. Set your soul free through forgiveness.

"Forgiveness will heal my heart and release all pain and sadness."

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Make a list of ALL the things you LOVE about yourself

I bet if I were to ask you to list five things you don't like about yourself, it might be an easy task, but if I were to ask what you do love about yourself, how hard would that be? Funny how that works. So, this is what I'm encouraging you to do, I want you to make a list of every single thing you like/love about yourself, write it all out. Creating this list will help you recognize your wonderful qualities and characteristics as well as your own unique gifts, talents, and awesome abilities. This isn't about being vain, or feeding your ego, it's seeing yourself for the beautiful soul you truly are and embracing what makes you, you. Make your list today and place it where you can see it every day as this will help you see your own value, build your self confidence and enhance your self esteem. 

"I am authentic and confident in expressing who I am." 

I hope these suggestions will help you on your journey of self love and acceptance. Share with me below what you do to take care of your mind, body, soul, and spirit.

Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." ​

The Universe is full of abundance, you can find it everywhere you go, and everywhere you look. The truth is, many of us focus on all the things we don't have, instead of focusing on all the things we do have. When we focus on what we don't have, we tend to live in a state of lack with the desire to accumulate more and more in material things, never feeling satisfied or content. However taking time to recognize and acknowledge all the blessings you do have, will create an abundant mindset that will leave you feeling like you have enough, and that you are enough. This beautiful state will bring you more freedom, joy, and inner peace.

Here are Six things you can do to attract more abundance in your life.

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Develop an attitude of gratitude for everything in your life

Begin to experience more abundance right now by being thankful for all the blessings you already have. Whether it's your lovely home, your friendships, your children and your partner, the heat that warms your home, the food you eat, or the water you drink, whatever it may be, be thankful. When you begin to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, you eventually become this state and in turn, you feel overly appreciative for even the smallest of things. The more you practice this "gratitude mindset" the more beauty and abundance you will see, and experience, every single day. The sunrises will seem brighter, the trees will appear more green, even your foods will taste better when you stop in the present moment and are thankful for every experience you encounter. You can also begin by offering appreciation each morning and being thankful for all that you have in your life, and all that you are.

“I am living my life in a state of complete abundance.” 

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Generosity is key 

Don't stop the flow of abundant energy by keeping it all to yourself. Give! Trust me, the more you give, the more you get, and that doesn't mean you get more in material things, what it means is, when you give, you are giving from a place of love, and in return, you receive the "energy of love."  This is how the Universe keeps itself in Karmic Balance. Have you ever noticed that when you engage in an act of kindness, you have this overwhelming feeling of joy? Well, that's the Universe rewarding you for your act of love, and the person on the receiving end will experience a similar feeling. It's not about what you give, it's in the act itself that is rewarding. Keep the abundance flowing so that it circulates back to you and allow the ebb and flow of this energy to do its thing. The more you practice giving, the more you'll stay in vibratory harmony with the all-giving Source of everything.

​"The wealth of the universe is circulating in my life and flowing to me in abundant and prosperous ways.”

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Affirm it to be true

Affirmations are powerful as they affirm a truth. If you have the belief that you are not abundant, you have unconsciously created a limited belief that may have prevented you from achieving abundance or success, and it may have even blocked you from seeing all the beauty and blessings that are all around you. Using positive affirmations will help you to create a new and empowering belief system that will better serve you purpose. This will also put you into vibratory alignment with Source as, Like attracts Like, therefor the more you affirm that you are abundant, the more you will experience this state and divine feeling. Your goal is to eliminate time and space between what you desire and that from which you manifest into your life. Meaning, in this very present moment, there is nothing to achieve or become, you already are what you seek.

“I am attuned to the frequency of love and abundance.”

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Get curious and creative

If you are in a place where you want 'more' of something in your life, then maybe it's time to try  something new and get creative. It's human nature to seek outwardly for fulfillment and reward, something to make you feel "full" and content. If you find this is you at times, reaching externally for gratification, try turning inwardly and connect to your curious and creative side that we all innately have within us. Maybe it's taking up a painting class, or attending a local workshop, or perhaps it's trying out a new recipe, or even journaling out your emotions. Whatever you feel drawn to, do that and have fun with it. You can consciously create more abundance when you tap into the gifts you have, and when you express your curious and creative side from an authentic place. This not only brings you joy, but it feeds your soul and spirit. 

​"I am worthy of love, joy, and fulfilment."
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Clear out the old and let in the new

Is your home filled with clutter and "too much stuff?" Then perhaps it's time to release the old, and make room for the new. And the new can simply mean, new energy, not more things and stuff. Do you feel overwhelmed in cluttered spaces, like you can't breath? Well, there's a reason for that...everything IS energy! The more energy packed into a space, the less energy for you. When you clear your space, you are energetically releasing things that may have blocked you from feeling abundant, which would seem counter intuitive, but it's not. It just means, too many things can cause a heaviness and can weigh you down, when you release and clear, you feel lighter in your energy, and in your heart. Choose a space to work on and take your time intentionally going through each item and asking yourself if it's something you need, or if it's something you can choose to release.  

"I am grateful that I am healthy, happy and successful."

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Stop comparing yourself to others

Comparison is the thief of joy. But so many of us do it! It's hard not to at times, we see the filtered lives of others running through our newsfeed on a daily basis, but what we are mostly seeing are the highlights, not all the truth that goes on behind the screen. Comparing yourself to others not only takes up your time and energy, but it takes away from the time and energy you could be putting towards your own goals, dreams and desires. It is not a productive thing to do, or a healthy mindset to have as the comparison mindset often comes from a place of lack, fear, and desperation, where an abundant mindset knows there is always enough for everyone. Remember, everyone is on their own journey, and if you believe in yourself and your dreams hard enough, you will achieve all that you set out to do. Also be sure to commend yourself for all the successes you have already achieved and attracted into your life, never sell yourself short! Instead of comparing yourself to others, just be the best you can be and see yourself as the abundant and successful soul you already are.

"The vision within me is creating the world around me."

Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." ​

I realized many years ago that true success is created and cultivated from within. It is not defined by the size of our house or the kind of car we drive, true success is found in the richness of our life experiences and in the smiles of those we love. It’s important to know this because it helps us understand that success isn’t something we need to constantly chase or strive for externally, true success is found within, and it's from having gratitude for all that we already have.

I’m sharing with you six secrets plus one bonus secret to achieving success from the inside out.

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Take risks
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Successful people take risks. They live in the space of possibility and greatness and they are not afraid to step outside their comfort zone. One who takes risks doesn’t believe in failure, in fact they see failure as an opportunity to learn and grow, and to do things differently and better than before. They are fuelled by their passions and they burn their own trail instead of following the foot steps of others. They are inspired by those who push the boundaries of possibility and reach beyond themselves in order to achieve greatness. If you want to become successful in your personal, business, or spiritual pursuits, you will need to muster up the courage to take risks that can potentially catapult you towards your desired outcomes.

“I continuously push myself to learn and develop in areas of life that bring me happiness, freedom, and purpose.”

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​Always be authentic

To obtain the highest form of success in all areas of your life, it’s important to remain authentic and true to yourself. If you operate from any other frequency people will feel that vibe in all things you do. They will feel the inauthentic energy that you are giving off and this “vibe” may turn people away. When you choose to show up in life as who you truly are, at the very core of your heart and soul, you will find people gravitate towards your energy because it feels good and it feels real, and people appreciate people who keep it real. So be yourself and allow those who are drawn to you, to come to you.

“I acknowledge my own self-worth and my self-confidence is rising.”
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Practice visualization

Visualization is huge when it comes to success. It’s the process of “imagining” the successes you want in life as they have already manifested. But don’t just imagine, go deep and connect to the feelings and emotions you will experience when you achieve your goals and dreams. Step into the feeling of joy, happiness, and excitement and allow that energy to fill you up. Sit with it and embrace it fully and completely. The Universe doesn’t know the difference between fiction and reality, so take advantage of that notion and begin to see your dreams as if they are already right in front of you, as if they have already manifested. Act, “as if.” Engage in the practice of daily visualization and watch as it magically moves you even closer to your desired outcomes.

“I choose to think positively and create a wonderful and successful life for myself.” ​

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clarity is power and action is everything
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We can have all the dreams we want, however without having clarity and taking action, nothing can possibly come to fruition. Begin by getting crystal clear on your ideal life and how you want it to look in all areas. Financial, career, relationships, spiritual, social life etc. and then become conscious of the choices you make from moment to moment as your choices either take you towards your goals and visions, or away from it. There is no time like the present to create a life you love and you need to start somewhere, so dig in deep, find your courage and start designing your destiny. It may seem scary and daunting to take that first step but trust yourself and trust that the Universe is fully supporting you at all times. You don’t have to have it all figured out before you start, just begin to take inspired and aligned action and watch as the magic unfolds.

“I will be open-minded and always eager to explore new avenues to success.”

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​develop self-awareness

Self-Awareness is the understanding of one's own thoughts, behaviours, feelings, and actions. When one develops self-awareness, they become a conscious creator of their life. By recognizing that your thoughts, feelings, and emotions act as your guiding force, you can then take control of your inner environment and how you respond to your external environment. Self-awareness helps you better know yourself, which in turn, helps you recognize your strengths and abilities, and uncover your weaknesses. This process involves getting real, honest, and vulnerable with yourself, and it means not being afraid to dig deeply into “self” to check where change may be required in order for growth to take place. Being self-aware can also assist you in becoming a more effective leader. It enables you to take yourself out of a situation to see opinions and perspectives from the eyes of another; this is also called Emotional Intelligence. Overall, developing and enhancing self-awareness will substantially effect not only the relationship you have with yourself, but with everyone around you. It will create more healthy, meaningful, and interpersonal relationships that will contribute to your growth and success.

“I am surrounded by supportive, positive people who believe in me and want to see me succeed.” 

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Connect to your purpose

When you connect to your purpose, you will begin to live a more meaningful existence. Knowing your purpose will help you stay focused on what truly matters most. When you live your life through purpose, you express it constantly and base your choices, actions, and feelings accordingly. One who is aware of their purpose tends to make greater impacts through their work, which serves and inspires others on a deeper soul level. When it comes to purpose however, many think it needs to be this grand ole thing that everyone knows about, but that is not the truth. Your purpose is perhaps being a mother, a father, a great friend or a committed employee/employer. At the very core of it, your purpose, is just being you and showing up in life as your authentic and genuine self. So don’t be discouraged and believe that you don’t have a purpose, or that you need to search for it, it’s simply a matter of doing what you do the very best you can, and it’s also choosing to do only the things that serve you and others in the most beneficial way possible. To get clear on your purpose, find out what brings you the most joy, what brings harmony to your heart, and ask yourself what values mean the most to you. Purpose is not something you find, it’s connecting to what you already are. 

“I let go of old, negative beliefs that have stood in the way of my success.”

bonus secret
Believe in yourself
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Belief is the root of all creation and when it comes to belief in yourself, this part is so important. If you don’t believe in yourself, and in your dreams and desires, how can you possibly create anything? It’s the ultimate foundation of your success because everything is created based on what you believe. And when it comes to belief, it can’t be 85% or even 90%, it needs to be 100% or nothing at all. You can’t leave room for any doubt. You have to believe in yourself and in your dreams just as much as you believe that there is a sun, a moon, the sky, and the stars. Any limits that you have when it comes to achieving success are simply ones that you place upon yourself, because limits don’t exist unless you create them. Whatever you are setting forth to do in order to achieve inner and outer success, you need to go all in with your belief in self and what you are doing and never allow any outside sources or persuasions influence you otherwise.

“I have everything I need to face any obstacles that come my way."

Article written by Vanessa Marie Dewsbury

"I help guide and support others on their Healing and Spiritual Journey in Life and in Business." ​