Follow the pull of your heart. Avoid if you can the need to push that which resists.
How can you tell when something is destined to be? You feel an internal pull, an excitement, it motivates and inspires you. You yearn to seek more and when you follow the pull, it becomes effortless and graceful. You approach it with sheer joy and curiosity. It just feels right.
When you are pushing, you feel resistance. You lack the energy but still muster up strength to try to put the circle through the square. It can feel forced, draining, time consuming, and it almost feels in vain. When you push, you push against the grain, hence the resistance and hesitation you know your heart feels, but your mind sometimes denies.
We do this in relationships, friendships, business, careers and in many aspects of our lives. We try to push to gain control, but truthfully, what isn't meant to be, isn't meant to be.
The need to control can stem from fear. Perhaps you felt you had no control in your childhood or in your past relationships so you consciously and unconsciously decided that in order for things to work the exact way you want them too, and in order to avoid ever experincing pain or failure, you try to control. Truthfully however, we can't avoid pain, it's actually needed for our soul development and the more we try to control what is out of our hands, the more frustration, disappointment and anger we experience. When we resist what persists, we can potentially miss an opportunity for growth and change and it's going against the natural flow of the Universe.
It's important to follow the pull of your heart, to allow it to lead you to where it needs to go. When we surrender to what is, instead of focusing on what isn't, we begin to align ourselves with our journeys truth. When you follow the pull, and allow the flow to engulf you, the magic begins to happen.
How do you surrender to what is? By accepting the moment as it is. We learn to surrender by trusting the moments we can't control and by breathing into the moments when we feel helpless and hopeless. Trust and belief will be your biggest savor, the affirmation, I trust in the moments I can't control, can send a message of reassurance to your internal self which can help you in moments of panic or anxiety. Meditations can also help with this process and meditation can be truly life changing.
Releasing control will bring you closer to your higher self, the house of your intuition, the self that wants to help guide you and wants the best for you. When you let go of the attachment to the outcome, you won't experience disappointment. Be okay with the fact that not everything will go the way you planned it too, and not everything is supposed too. Think of all the things you tried to control in the past and how you're probably better off that most of it didn't work out the way you intended it to. Life certainly has it's own agenda!
Believe that everything is created for your highest good and to serve you purpose in some way, trust that all will be okay, even when it's not, in the moment.
"Fall into the ocean of the pull, be taken by the waves of the flow, cease to swim the other way. It's much easier to allow, than to control.
The flow beholds freedom, a peace of mind, and a sweet joy of life."
Vanessa Marie Dewsbury