A Balanced Ego Is A Healthy Ego

I know you probably think you don't have an ego but the truth is, everyone does.

Your ego is a part of who you are and, when it is in balance, it can be a good thing.

Our ego drives our desire to look good, professional, presentable. Without it, we simply wouldn't care. It can drive us to success and to achieve what we want in life. It helps build our confidence and reminds us that we are good enough, and that we are amazing!

Ego also inspires a leader’s ability to take charge and to take initiative.

I'm sure you've heard yourself say, "This isn't my ego talking here but..."  That's an unconscious understanding that an ego exists within you.

But when our egos aren't in balance, it can cause us to be insecure, judgmental, and unforgiving.

How do you know when your ego isn't in balance?

• You are quick to judge others and you feel inferior to them.
• You engage in frequent drama, gossiping and pointing out what you perceive to be 'wrong' in others.
• You have a belief that you are better than everyone else; a balanced ego is having the understanding that you ARE awesome, but you don't think you're better than others.
• You talk mostly about yourself and lack a general awareness of others and asking about them and how they are.
• You don't like seeing others succeed, even your own friends or family.
• You tend to point fingers and blame others when something doesn't go right; your 'ego' refuses to be wrong.
• It can make you live in a state of low self confidence, especially if you find that you often compare yourself to others.
• Ego can be stubborn and doesn't forgive easy, or at all. ​

So how do you balance your ego to a healthy state?

• Give up the need to be right.  You can't possibly always be right, can you?
• Listen to others.  It is said that when speaking with someone, it's important to listen 80% of the time and speak 20% of the time. 
• Encourage and support others and applaud their successes.  Celebrate with them gracefully.
• Be aware if your ego is fragile or confident. Do you get hurt and offended easily or do you stay high in self confidence and self awareness?
• Develop the ability to better understand others.  Ask questions, be curious of those around you, and be interested in what others do.
  
• Practice forgiveness and letting go.

Your ego is a key to your self development and self awareness so it's important to ensure that it is healthy and balanced. When we release control and any denial of who we are, it offers an interesting and new feeling of freedom.  You give light to what's within you. We can't change what we don't acknowledge and if you want to work on balancing your ego, first understand your ego exists.  

Acknowledgment and responsibility create change.

"Try to understand the ego. Analyze it, dissect it, watch it, observe it, from as many angles as possible. And don't be in a hurry to sacrifice it, otherwise the greatest egoist is born: the person who thinks he is humble, the person who thinks that he has no ego."
~ Osho

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