I was in a seven year relationship with someone who never asked me how my day was. He never asked me, how are you?
It dawned upon me one day during our relationship how important that question was for me and how sad it was that he never asked me.
And then I felt sad for him because he was never taught the importance of that one simple question. A question that says, without saying, I care about you, I care about how you feel. And I want to know how you feel. I can only assume that he was never asked either by the ones he loved the most.
You see, sometimes we don't receive certain things in life that can make us a better person. Perhaps we lacked love from our peers or emotional support from the people we needed it from the most.
So we grow up not knowing how to show love, or emotional support to our loved ones. We lack the empathy and capacity to know how.
But, we all have a choice to change what we've been conditioned too. We're all smart enough to know what someone needs, because usually, we need the same thing.
And when I ask someone how they are, how they feel, I truly want to know.
It's just one simple question, that can have the biggest effect on someone.
Vanessa Marie Dewsbury
Self Love Coach